Excuses Excuses: He’s Just Not That Into You

I’m a big fan of taking chances. Whether it’s taking a chance on a new job, buying that dress that you didn’t have time to try on or going on a date with a complete stranger. It’s these random experiences that make life that much more interesting and exciting. I recently went on a date with a guy I met on Twitter. He seemed to be a sweet guy through our text messages back and forth. I had a great time on our date. Our conversation seemed to flow with ease and we had a few good laughs which is always great in my books. Added bonus – he was super cute and nice and tall.

21st Century Dating At Its Best

21st Century Dating At Its Best

When we parted ways however is when the night took a different turn. He explained that he is in a pretty intense masters program and doesn’t have the time to commit to a relationship. I certainly wasn’t looking for a proposal and honestly wasn’t sure where this interaction would take us anyway. Also keep in mind; he was the one to ask me out. I assured him that I wasn’t looking to jump into anything serious anyhow but would like to see him again if he was down. He agreed, we kissed and went our separate ways.

I never heard from him again. It’s not necessarily the cold shoulder  that I was discouraged about, but more of the excuse he gave me. I get being busy is a valid reason to not want to jump into anything that might distract one from their main goal of success, however if you’re not into someone, you are simply just not into someone. Men have to realize that women are strong willed and will be okay if a second date just isn’t in the works. Saying that you are too busy is just exactly what is is – an excuse. Clearly he was just not that into me, which is perfectly fine because there are plenty fish in the sea.

We Can Take It

We Can Take It

Starting my own company has shown me that there is a real sacrifice of time and commitment to anything outside of my business. That being said, if the right man were to come along, I certainly wouldn’t send him packing. At the end of the day it really is all about what you want, what you need and finding a blend between the two. As women, we tend to have a bad wrap for being needy and emotional but at the end of the day, if we have the capability of squeezing a 10 Lb baby out of our hooha then we can certainly take a little rejection with a smile.

All is fair in love and blogging 😉




9 Responses to “Excuses Excuses: He’s Just Not That Into You”

  1. Great post lady. I’m so sick of men giving cop out excuses in fear of being the “bad guy” when these excuses is what actually makes them the bad guy.

    Posted by Sasha | October 7, 2013, 3:02 pm
  2. I agree 100%! & I think any guy who gives that excuse is crazy and wasting time. I think with this day and age of text messaging and twitter, guys & girls should be upfront and don’t worry about hurting feelings, no connection. Simple. You always make time for that special someone no matter what! People do it everyday…

    Posted by Denna | October 7, 2013, 6:18 pm
  3. Preach!

    Posted by Vicki Hogenbirk | October 7, 2013, 9:14 pm
  4. I personally think they are so into themselves they think we can’t bear hearing that they don’t want to see us again! Men…

    Posted by Sally | October 8, 2013, 12:13 am
  5. I just wrote about this and I totally agree with you! I don’t know what’s wrong with just telling someone you’ve had a nice time but just aren’t really feeling a strong enough connection to do it again.

    Posted by metamorphocity | October 9, 2013, 9:01 pm
  6. Amen sister! Maybe I’m the one making excuses…def made me stop and think.

    Posted by Taylor Ferri | October 10, 2013, 3:20 pm
  7. I completely and totally agree with this 1000%! There is no need to make excuses. Great post. 🙂

    Posted by SandyT (@sassygirlcanada) | October 10, 2013, 3:29 pm
  8. Not all men are like this. Just wanted to point that out;

    Posted by Oaks (@OakleyInc) | October 17, 2013, 1:58 am
  9. great post! 🙂

    Posted by lifeisgoingon | February 9, 2014, 6:27 pm

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